Humpday Q and A – Can you switch?

Good morning!  Happy humpday!  Today is about switching.  Are you one of those couples that switch?  Many couples have a set rule one is the dominant the other the submissive and that is where it always remains.  One of the reasons for that is we are who we are by nature.  Some of us could never dominate it just isn’t in the person’s nature.  Some would never be submissive because that is the way they are.  They have to be control.  Some people are able to switch and move from their roles.  This may be difficult to switch roles for some.  However,  many dominants have very high stress jobs, and have to make many decisions all day every day and it continues in the D/s relationship.   Subs are also very strong and may have stressful jobs or have to make daily decisions also, but the dominant usually has the final say.  Maybe and i am just saying maybe, it may be nice for the dominant to have a short break once in a while and let someone else make some choices, even if it is just in the bedroom once in a while.  A switch of roles where the dominant becomes the submissive and the submissive becomes the dominant.  It could be fun.  Like role play.  Just like anything else you have done in kink that seemed weird the first time, it may feel weird or awkward, but it may also add some excitement into the relationship.  Then we slip back into our normal routine of daily D/s and into our normal roles in the relationship.  It could be for one night, a day, or several days, or however long the couple agrees on, but it should be a mutual choice. I for one, would do this if my dominant wanted me to.  Being dominant is not my nature.  But keeping my dominant happy is in my nature.  Therefore, if he suggested that we “switch” for a day or a week, or even a month, or however long he wanted, i would do it for him with pleasure.

So my question is this:  Being that we are usually all either submissive or dominant by nature and usually fall into one of those categories could you switch?  As a submissive, could you take over the dominant’s role and how would you feel about it?  As a dominant, could you become submissive?  Would you submit to your submissive?  How does this make you feel as a Dom. that wouldn’t have control even for a short time?

Humpday Q and A

The Humpday Q and A has been delayed.  Last week i didn’t post due to being extremely busy and this Wednesday i didn’t post because the last two days i have been enjoying life away from the computer for the most part. Today i didn’t get to it with trying to catch up to speed with everything here in the office.   I will try to post Humpday Q and A next week.  If there is anything you would like to suggest for a humpday q and a question on D/s relationships or subjects relating to it please feel free to let me know and i will try to post it on a Wednesday.

i am exhausted.  Good night to all.

Humpday Q and A Do you tell anyone?

Here is a topic i find of interest.  i will ask the question at the end.  Many D/s and vanilla relationships these days begin online.  The internet has opened up the world for all of us, so you are not just meeting the people in your community but people from everywhere throughout this entire world to anyone who has a computer, laptop, tablet, or cell phone with internet services.  We are very lucky that we can meet amazing wonderful people that we would have never met otherwise.  So you meet someone online from face book, fetlife, chat rooms, so many places to choose from and you “click”.  A friendship is formed, a bond is made.  You have some friendly conversations and then find yourself talking to that person every day.  You can hardly wait to say hello, and they are there throughout the day with emails and messages.  They are the last person you say good night to before you go to sleep.  You seem to really like each other a lot.  After a while you have had extensive conversations, perhaps and usually exchanged pictures. Maybe even family pictures.   You share much of your daily lives.  Even though they may be very far away in miles, it seems like they are right there with you.  Your conversations get more intimate over the course of time.  There may be talking of meeting “someday”.  A few months after you have been talking to this person online that you have come to have some real feelings for this person,  If all has gone well up to this point where they have shared their full name, where they live, where they work, what kind of work they do, their age this is all good.  So now they want to meet you, and you want to meet them.  You already like them, it can only get better.  You both are wondering at this point, will their be chemistry in person, will they like me when they see me, will i like them when i see them, will we get along as well as we have online?  You will probably be asking yourself so many questions.  Then there is the one thing you still need to consider.,  Safety. Always think, safety first.   You have to remember, even though you have been conversing with this wonderful person that you have come to adore, you still need to be cautious when you meet at first.  Here is what i think a person should do whether you are a sub meeting your Dom for the first time, or someone entering into a vanilla relationship  and meeting for the first time, you need to Tell someone what you are doing.  Now if you are single, you have probably already told a few friends about your new dom, boyfriend, girlfriend, however you want to consider the relationship.  If you are married, and you are meeting someone, chances are you are pretty tight lipped about it.  Don’t be.  We all (i hope) have that one friend, the one who is there for us.  The friend who loves you and you can trust them with your life.  The one friend that is non-judgmental and understands you completely. The friend that would never tell another living soul your secret no matter what.  Tell that one friend. That is your life rope,  Make arrangements with them that they will know where you are, and what you are doing.  Have them call you to check on you, and have a secret code to use if you need help, or another code to say hey leave me alone everything is great i am good.  Chances are 99% good that the only code you will give is the one that says leave me alone, i am good.  It’s for just in case.  Because even though you may have had numerous countless conversations, and you seem to click, you just don’t know for sure until you meet face to face.  Now one more thing i would like to add is to be honest with the person you are going to meet.  You are excited to meet them, and you are comfortable with them, so let them know.  Tell them yes i would love to meet you, and let them know that you are going to let one person know about it.  If they care about you and they are sincere and trusting, they won’t mind.  They might even tell you that it is a wise thing for you to do for yourself.  They might have done the same, remember, they don’t really know you either.  It goes both ways.  All this being said, this is just my opinion.  If anyone has anything they would like to add to this please feel free and make a comment below.

Here is the Humpday Q and A question.

You met someone you really like a lot online, they asked you to meet them in person.  Do you not tell anyone what you are doing because you are comfortable and excited to meet them OR do you even if it’s just for the sake of safety, tell at least one person that you know and trust,  where you are going and what you are doing?

Humday Q and A

Today is Wednesday, the Wednesday before Valentine’s Day.  I usually put a question on Wednesday, hoping to make this interactive but today i forgot.  I had the flu from Saturday night until yesterday when i started feeling a little better.  I am feeling much better today but i have been swamped with orders in my jewelry shop for Valentine’s Day and even with the flu i was staying up and working all crazy hours trying to get these orders out on time so people would have them for their sweethearts on that very special day.  It feels good to be a part of something special.  Today i had to make two trips to the post office to get rush orders out and i have been making jewelry all day so i have been extremely busy and completely forgot about the humpday Q and A.  So even though it is almost 9 pm technically it is still Wednesday and i can post my question.  Then i have to get back to the business of making these last minute orders.  The funny thing is i have to impromptu a question because i haven’t had any time at all to think of one til this very second.

A day collar can be worn as a necklace, a choker, a collar made with chain or leather or both, or even a bracelet or anklet.  As a submissive, do you like to wear your day collar as something being discreet that is acceptable to both the bdsm and vanilla world so that you can wear it out in public without being questioned?

These are some examples of discreet, or well almost discreet day collars i make them in my shop at https://www.etsy.com/shop/HotSpotJewelryShop

This necklace that says naughty is the one i wear everyday.  i love it.  It is discreet (well except that it has my name Naughty, lol),  fashionable and i can wear it anywhere.

Naughty Desires – These are the things i miss

These are the things i miss:

His touch, holding hands and walking on the beach

the feel of his hand brushing my hair off to the side  and kissing my neck while

standing behind me holding me at the kitchen sink,

yes i miss this,

gazing into each others eyes

staying up all night and talking together,

hugs with arms holding each other so tight, and feeling the warmth of our bodies together,

legs entwined, turning into passionate kisses on lips, tongues dancing and swirling,

feeling his kisses going from my mouth,

down to the neck, the breast, gentle kisses on the stomach, thighs, and …..,.

turning into making love so passionately, pounding into each other so hard that

it looks like we hate each other, but oh the love, so much love,,,

holding each other close, the sweet  “I love you”  whispered in the ear

the gentle kisses good night, spooning together as we sleep….

yes,  these are the things i miss.

 ♥  Naughty

HUMPDAY Q and A

Good morning and happy humpday!  i can’t believe it is Wednesday so soon!  i have given this question a lot of thought for today and here it is:

Do you have a safe word, is it an easy one for you to remember when in distress, and how often do you use it?  

In the past weeks i have asked that you post your answers on your blog and link to this one and then comment here.  i have decided that it may be too much for some to do.  So feel free to just comment your answers below in the comment section here and that is fine.  i am looking forward to your responses!

If Loving You Is Wrong

If Loving You is Wrong  This song is sung by Paul Carrack