Here is a topic i find of interest. i will ask the question at the end. Many D/s and vanilla relationships these days begin online. The internet has opened up the world for all of us, so you are not just meeting the people in your community but people from everywhere throughout this entire world to anyone who has a computer, laptop, tablet, or cell phone with internet services. We are very lucky that we can meet amazing wonderful people that we would have never met otherwise. So you meet someone online from face book, fetlife, chat rooms, so many places to choose from and you “click”. A friendship is formed, a bond is made. You have some friendly conversations and then find yourself talking to that person every day. You can hardly wait to say hello, and they are there throughout the day with emails and messages. They are the last person you say good night to before you go to sleep. You seem to really like each other a lot. After a while you have had extensive conversations, perhaps and usually exchanged pictures. Maybe even family pictures. You share much of your daily lives. Even though they may be very far away in miles, it seems like they are right there with you. Your conversations get more intimate over the course of time. There may be talking of meeting “someday”. A few months after you have been talking to this person online that you have come to have some real feelings for this person, If all has gone well up to this point where they have shared their full name, where they live, where they work, what kind of work they do, their age this is all good. So now they want to meet you, and you want to meet them. You already like them, it can only get better. You both are wondering at this point, will their be chemistry in person, will they like me when they see me, will i like them when i see them, will we get along as well as we have online? You will probably be asking yourself so many questions. Then there is the one thing you still need to consider., Safety. Always think, safety first. You have to remember, even though you have been conversing with this wonderful person that you have come to adore, you still need to be cautious when you meet at first. Here is what i think a person should do whether you are a sub meeting your Dom for the first time, or someone entering into a vanilla relationship and meeting for the first time, you need to Tell someone what you are doing. Now if you are single, you have probably already told a few friends about your new dom, boyfriend, girlfriend, however you want to consider the relationship. If you are married, and you are meeting someone, chances are you are pretty tight lipped about it. Don’t be. We all (i hope) have that one friend, the one who is there for us. The friend who loves you and you can trust them with your life. The one friend that is non-judgmental and understands you completely. The friend that would never tell another living soul your secret no matter what. Tell that one friend. That is your life rope, Make arrangements with them that they will know where you are, and what you are doing. Have them call you to check on you, and have a secret code to use if you need help, or another code to say hey leave me alone everything is great i am good. Chances are 99% good that the only code you will give is the one that says leave me alone, i am good. It’s for just in case. Because even though you may have had numerous countless conversations, and you seem to click, you just don’t know for sure until you meet face to face. Now one more thing i would like to add is to be honest with the person you are going to meet. You are excited to meet them, and you are comfortable with them, so let them know. Tell them yes i would love to meet you, and let them know that you are going to let one person know about it. If they care about you and they are sincere and trusting, they won’t mind. They might even tell you that it is a wise thing for you to do for yourself. They might have done the same, remember, they don’t really know you either. It goes both ways. All this being said, this is just my opinion. If anyone has anything they would like to add to this please feel free and make a comment below.
Here is the Humpday Q and A question.
You met someone you really like a lot online, they asked you to meet them in person. Do you not tell anyone what you are doing because you are comfortable and excited to meet them OR do you even if it’s just for the sake of safety, tell at least one person that you know and trust, where you are going and what you are doing?